As the Bank of England confirmed this week, we are heading towards a deeper recession in 2009, I want to reiterate how important our thoughts our in shaping our happiness.These daunting and persistent negative messages to our subconscious mind can unexplicably impact our mood... and at worst our relationships.
Positive thought leads to positive action, and a fantastic offshoot of this is awareness or "mindfulness", which manifests itself as greater flexibility/control of your automatic response and understanding of your mood.
For instance, by thinking postively, you will know what you can do to help a difficult situation (rather than react to it) and understanding how your mood is being affected during a difficult time (thus being more aware and able to avoid conflict with others).
So here's a few things to consider to keep us all on track.
Love, love, love...
Assume the best
“Shall we skip pudding?” is a saucy suggestion, not a hint about your weight.
Forgive even if you can’t forget
Frequent forgivers are healthier and sleep better.
Tell yourself you are loved
Every morning, take a minute to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, you love you.
Think it, say it, sing it... flirt with yourself, kiss the mirror... well, you are gorgeous!
Say sorry (often) and mean it
If your partner is upset or hurt, that’s what matters - even if the same thing wouldn’t have upset you.
Choose your battles
Even though it may feel like everyone is against you, your partner is not. Save your energy were possible, and focus on reconciliation.
Don't ignore the small stuff
The offer of tea, the request for more duvet. Your risk of future conflict can be predicted by how you talk about these mundane matters.
Lavish praise
Five compliments for every criticism is the magic minimum.
Have a lovely week!
Coach Chris
PS Do drop me a line and let me know what works for you too!
